Mistress: Whippings
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Subject: On Whippings
From: mistress@elray.com
Date: 1997/05/11
Newsgroups: alt.sex.femdom,alt.sex.bondage

Mistress: On Whippings

The purpose of this posting is to explain Mistress' Viewpoint on the role of physical discipline (punishments) in the training and domination of the submissive.

First however, note that the terms "training" and "dominating" are basically the same .. meaning that my submissives will be training as long as I keep them .. always striving to improve their loyalty and obedience to me. When the sub quits responding to training .. the sub is dismissed. Period.

Some subs come to me .. asking to be punished .. saying they enjoy it! Could be .. but Mistress would never administer discipline to simply entertain the sub. I rarely use the word "spanking", instead I prefer the word "whipping". Punishment must be punishment! To do otherwise, undermines the subs respect for the dominant ..

I whip my submales for three reasons.

  • For actual infractions of rules, lack of respect, etc.
  • As preventative maintenance "a stitch in time .. saves nine".
  • Sometimes my hormones need the sweet orgasmic release obtained only by whipping a submissive .. who understands this need, and accepts this act as an opportunity to demonstrate his attachment and sense of duty to please his Mistress.

Having said all of that, the whipping is never done abusively or with the intention of injuring. But .. it is always done to an extent that is BEYOND the sub's sense of "enjoyment" and extends into that erotic zone of "pushing the edge" .. "expanding his limits" .. breaking his mental resistance .. releasing his emotions ... bonding the sub ever closer .. but always stopping well short of abuse .. violence .. or injury ... but always delivered .. with love and respect for the needs of the sub.

Thus, a given sub might be whipped only to a slight degree .. yet with the same results just described. On the other hand, another sub might be taken to what might seem to be very extreme degrees .. yet meet the same objectives.

Generally speaking, however, a sub who has served another dominant usually must be punished .. more severely than he was before .. to erase the link to the previous dominant .. and properly bond the sub to his new Mistress.

In conclusion .. punishments (spankings, whippings, etc.) are never administered as rewards. They must be delivered and received as punishments. A sub of mine will rue the day he asks to be whipped.

Mistress invites your thoughts .. comments .. and reactions to this posting.

You may wish to visit Mistress' homepage or contact Mistress at e-mail: mistress@elray.com

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